Do you think kids are 100% products of "home-training" or do you think they have some innate attributes that are unteachable?.

This topic is based greatly on the concepts of nature vs nuture, I asked this question a while ago and a lot of people really thought that if you train a child in a certain way they'd be just what you want them to be as they are born a blank slate and so should be totally a product of what you input (nurture). Others argued that although training goes a long way some kids just have some attributes by default that can't particularly be accounted for by training(nature). 

Both points are reasonable if you think about it. But here's my opinion. 

Here in Africa we take home training very seriously as we(older generations at least) kind of think you can totally model a child to whatever person you want them to become. And to a large extent this is true. A child's dreams, aspirations and even behaviour are largely affected by what he/she is told as they don't know any better than what they're told or shown and so a child raised in a ghetto for example, around street fighters, abusers and uneducated people will likely want to grow up to be one of these things as they're the only colours on the spectrum he/she sees.

However, there're kids that are born in bad neighbours and by default only know and see bad things and don't know any better but still don't just feel like part of it. They don't know there's something more out there as a result of their limited spectrum but they just know the one they have isn't what they want either. How then do you account for such behaviour?.

I really do feel kids are a product of what their parents teach or expose to them. Also I think that a great part of what a kid becomes is as a result of some unpredictable(okay maybe predictable if I were a genetics scientist) natural wiring.

That being said all humans have some common traits, they're just "human thingys" or maybe just attributes of an high intelligence species. Deception is one

(sorry I'm picking a bad one, but you know it'd be reallyyyy hard to pick a good trait that everybody has lol). Nobody really teaches a kid to lie. Kids as little as 2 years old already do deceptive stuff (or even younger. Everyone is deceptive and will lie, some people just take it as a hobby). But kids that grow up around really deceptive adults would most likely embrace the idea even more and ones who didn't might accommodate the idea less.

But traits go deeper than that, we firstly have personalities, like introversion and extroversion (although I just learnt they're other subdivisions) these things cannot be taught, people just come wired like that, we also have the 4 temperaments too including sanguine, choleric, melancholic, and phlegmatic and these also shapes how kids would behave no matter what they're taught.

Narrowing down I've seen some more personalized traits like kids that are light fingered, I went to primary school with one, a pastor's kid. He even went as far as using counterfeit bills. 

(he was literally like 7 years old or something then) where did he pick that from?(I know half of you have some spiritual attack theory lol). His older siblings were well behaved. And no it wasn't a phase I heard stories of him doing something related some 10/12 years after.

There are other traits like stinginess and generousity, these things are just wiring, and no matter how you try to 'home-train' stinginess out of a kid it'd still be their thing. I mean that sheer fact that he/she exhibited the  attribute is testament to the fact that we're not actually born a clean slate and we actually do come with out personal good and bad habits that cannot be taught and I guess that's what makes us humans. (Although I can almost prove we had a hen that had attitude problems when I was a kid. But that's for another day).

So someway we have to say kids are both a product or training and "default settings". But I'd bet my money that you cannot 100% make up a child's character by training and that these so-called "default settings" influence our beings more. Let me know what you think in the comments section. Thanks for reading.