Is having kids necessary?

 

I typically get my ideas for posts from conversations with people or what I see around me. But this one is a bit different. I got this one from some intrapersonal communication. It popped in my head in the middle of the conversation and I immediately opened my notes (which is literally a diary for me now) and put it down as it seems I now have the memory of an 80 year old.

Is having kids necessary?. Are kids necessary?. Before we go on I just want to put this out there. I love kids and I will like a have about 3. I

don't know why I'm shalaye to y'all but just know.

Now about having kids. I know and it's obvious that we all (well not all) need to have kids to continue the existence of our specie, race, family or however we want to personalize it. That being said. Is there any other personal reason you really want to have kids?. The major reason I think people have kids is so that they'd have people to take care of them when they're old. But then if you save up or invest all the money you'd need to raise and properly educate 4/5 kids you'd probably be a multi-millionaire at 70 and would be able to afford paying people to take care of you.

In the olden days I know people had kids so they can have extra hands to help out on the farm. But in modern day kids aren't even useful to their parents till a certain age. Except those of us that our parents own shops that we mann for them there's literally nothing we do for these people. Well I know we're mostly dishwashers and "errand-runners" but they can do these themselves. We're useless to these people and as to us helping them, they're the ones actually helping us. They spend their whole lives serving us and sacrificing everything to make us comfortable with no assurance we'll either be able or willing to pay back (I mean they don't make us sign any legally binding contract).

Furthermore, being a parent is a tedious job, firstly the excruciating pain of carrying and then birthing a child, then the constant worries, the having to deal with unruly tiny people,

the terribly loud crys at night (studies show that parents of new borns lose about 109 minutes of sleep every night in the first year of their child's life),

and the expenses all for the price of having someone to love and that would love you back?, why would anyone want such a shitty deal?. Does your spouse not love you?. Isn't that enough?. Is there a different or special level/type of love one gets from having children that they can't get from any other relationship?. Maybe there is, I won't know for now.

So I'm asking you genuinely. Do you really want kids because you really think loving them would be the highlight of your lifes and the best thing you'd ever do or cause it's been encoded in you my society that that's the "order of things". You know?, finish school, get a job, get married, have kids?. Do you really have a deeper need for children than just the mere fact that by default you just know that having children is what adults do?. 

No I'm not oblivious of the fact that society makes you feel like less of a person if you don't have kids especially if you're a woman. But is that reason enough?.

Perhaps it'll be realer to me when I actually do have them but for now I just don't see a logical deeper need for children (well asides keeping the species around to destroy the planet and deplict every known "resource") 

than the fact that we're just expected to have them. Well, I'm not so "woke" to say I definitely don't want kids. I still want them anyways.

But be real with me do you really think having kids is necessary?. Thanks for reading.

PS: I saw this video after I was done writing this post. Lookss beautiful, doesn't it?. Perhaps these few moments of beauty are worth all Trouble.